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Terence Alan Laing

Sept 10, 1950 - Sept 22, 1996 

 

    <   Music: Power of Love / Celine Dion

Alan (age 46) and I were driving on I-40 through New Mexico about 40 miles east of Albuquerque near Tucumcari, when the axle on our van broke and caused the van to nosedive and flip over.  It then skidded, upside down, across the Interstate and hit the median where it rolled over several times before bursting into flames. Alan was thrown from the van and died instantly upon impact. I was seat belted and continued to roll with the van until the seatbelt snapped.  I was ejected a few yards from where the van exploded into a ball of fire. The driver of another vehicle ran up to pull me away from the flames. (I was told this later when I awoke from a coma and do not know who this man was that saved me from burning in the fire. I would like to thank him very much for his immediate response and bravery). I was airlifted to Albuquerque University Hospital Trauma Center (I later learned that Alan had been taken to Tucumcari New Mexico as it was closer.)

I had multiple broken bones in my neck, spine and hips, lacerations of the face and legs,  and a subdural hematoba (not to mention hundreds, if not thousands, of cactus needles in my back!).  I was comatose for 6 days and have no memory of the accident, although I do remember the morning of the accident.  When I was out of the coma, I was told of Alan's death, and that his body had been transported to Florida where his family had a funeral service and laid him to rest, knowing I would not be able to take care of those matters.  I was discharged from the hospital (flown to Memphis to my family's home) in a half body cast from the hips to my ears to prevent any movement of my spine to allow the fractures to heal before beginning physical therapy.  In late December, still in the body cast, I was able to go to Florida and visit Alan's gravesite. 

I speak to him often, and every time I see a bird's feather on the ground, (which is more than you would imagine!)  to me, it is a "hello" from "Alvin" as he always picked up bird feathers wherever we went. 
Although his name is Alan...my nickname for him was "Alvin", the mischievous chipmunk!!

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"Alvin", You are greatly missed

Your life ended here on earth so suddenly and I pray that you are at peace and still have that charismatic smile. I am so blessed to have had those last hours with you in Sedona at the Chapel. We did not know those would be our last hours together as we were on our journey to a new beginning, and although it was not enough time, I am thankful for what time we did have. When I awoke from the coma, and they told me you were gone, I knew that God had taken you in His arms and you had finally found the peace you so wanted. My funny "Alvin" I miss you terribly, but I know you are safe and so very loved in heaven.  I pray that you hear me when I speak your name and talk to you still, and that you now know that my love for you was one of devotion as I saw you struggling and only wanted to remain by your side and believe in you. It was you who always reminded me that God never gives us more than we can bear and that we have to accept His timing.  I  sometimes still struggle with why I lived that fatal accident, but then I remember what you said about timing,..it wasn't my time. I only hope that when it is, I will once again feel that strong hug in your arms, and see that delightful contagious smile. 

 

      

 

      

        

Terence Alan Laing

Time has not taken you from my heart.
Every time I think of you I smile
Remembering all the fun and silly times we shared.
Even remembering the times that were heartbreaking
Never diminish my love for you.
Clearly you were the adventure of my life
Every road we traveled led us to a new discovery 

 

And when I lost you, I knew how empty my life would be
Losing my friend, my partner, my laughter.
And though time has passed and reality has shown it's cruel truth
Not a day goes by that I don't remember that silly boy in you


Laughing and poking fun at me,
Always able to bring a smile
I loved you for the little boy that lived in your heart
Now I miss you and am so sad that you are gone
God had a plan and your laughter is now ringing in Heaven


your wife,

                                                                      Love Forever,

                                                                              Shay

                         Welcome Home my child   

Nobody Knows It But Me/Babyface

Wish I told her how I feel,
Maybe she'd be here right now...

I pretend that I'm glad you went away
These four walls closing more every day
And I'm dying inside
And nobody knows it but me
Like a clown I put on a show
The pain is real even if nobody knows
And I'm crying inside
And nobody knows it but me

Why didn't I say the things I needed to say
How could I let my angel get away
Now my world is just a-tumblin' down
I can say it so clearly but you're nowhere around

The nights are lonely the days are so sad and
I just keep thinking about the love that we had
And I'm missing you
And nobody knows it but me

I carry a smile when I'm broken in two
And I'm nobody without someone like you
I'm trembling inside
And nobody knows it but me (yeah)

I lie awake, it's a quarter past three
I'd scream out at night if I thought you'd hear me
Yeah, my heart is calling you
And nobody knows it but me

How blue can I get?
You could ask my heart
But like a jigsaw puzzle it's been torn all apart
A million words couldn't say just how I feel
A million years from now you know I'll be loving you still

The nights are lonely the days are so sad and
I just keep thinking about the love that we had
And I'm missing you
And nobody knows it but me

Tomorrow morning
I'm hittin the dusty road
Gonna find you where ever
Ever you might go
And I'm gonna unload my heart
And hope you come back to me

Say when the nights are lonely
The nights are lonely the days are so sad and
I just keep thinking about the love that we had
And I'm missing you
And nobody knows it but me

 

The Power Of Love / Celine Dion

The whispers in the morning
Of lovers sleeping tight
Are rolling like thunder now
As I
look in your eyes

I hold on to your body
And feel each move you make
Your voice is warm and tender
A love that
I could not forsake

'cause I am your lady
And you are my man
Whenever you reach for me
I'll do all that
I can


Lost is how
I'm feeling lying in your arms
When the world outside's too
Much to take
That all ends when
I'm with you

Even though there may be times
It seems I'm far away
Never wonder where i am
'cause I am always by your side

'cause I am your lady
And you are my man
Whenever you reach for me
I'll do all that I can

We're heading for something
Somewhere I've never been
Sometimes I am frightened
But I'm ready to learn
Of the power of love

The sound of your heart beating
Made it clear
Suddenly the feeling that i can't go on
Is light years away

'cause I am your lady
And you are my man
Whenever you reach for me
I'm gonna do all that I can

We're heading for something
Somewhere I've never been
Sometimes I am frightened
But I'm ready to learn
Of the power of love

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